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Fathers are important. End of.

Indeed, they often get lost in the shuffle these days. Caught between critiques of toxic masculinity and the heroism of motherhood (well-earned, of course). Let’s be honest, some men haven’t helped their own case. Ghosting emotional responsibility and holding on to tired patriarchal ideals.

But this Father’s Day, we’re turning a corner. Many of us sons are seeing adulthood, leadership, and fatherhood with clearer eyes. Our dads weren’t just stoic or strict. They were often just wounded. And quite frankly, didn’t know any better.

This generation has the chance to start the healing one thoughtful gift at a time. Just come correct and give a gift he will actually want to use and enjoy. That shouldn’t be hard if you consider age and disposition of the recipient.

My father is closer to 80 years old. His vanity days are well behind him—except for shoes and jewellery. I strongly doubt he will want some body butter or beard oil at this stage of his life.

This is a moment to commemorate their sacrifices by giving Daddy something that says: “I see you. Thank you for all you did—and still do.”

So, maybe a bathrobe, pyjamas or cologne will be alright. But definitely not the usual suspects: ties, pocket squares and singlets. This is 2025.

Ages 45–60 Pops still got juice and can definitely flaunt it. He wants a trophy for doing parenting without losing his mind. Semi-retired, but still binge-watches TED Talks in bed.

• Legacy Journal – A memoir with guided prompts to help uncover stories. Get ready for never-told-before gist. Opportunity and space for real filial connection.
• Gym or Club Membership – For staying active and building new social networks. Remember men get lonelier as they age.
• Personalized Jewellery – Something sentimental. A chain or leather bracelet with the initials of his children (or grandkids) is timeless.

Ages 65–80 Man is in his most philosophical phase. A wise owl and truly he has earned it. And please, no noise. Lol.

• Experience – A father-child road trip, tickets to a jazz concert or a fancy dinner for two. If there be awkward silences, manage it.
• Custom Art Piece – Consider something symbolic and paternal. Frame his favourite photo or quote. Or commission a painting or a sculptural piece. (Below pieces by a friend are available for sale). A Talking drum, a Rolex Oyster Perpetual or anything that suits his personal elan.
• Subscription/ Interests – YouTube premium, Netflix, News magazines, Vinyl records, Barbecue/ Hot sauce sets, wine reviews, documentaries. Find out what he likes.

Ages 80 and above The twilight years. Where he becomes a living archive of history and insight into the future. Now is the time to lean back and enjoy their legacy.

• Griot Sessions – This is more for you than it is for him. Interview him. Record voice notes. Preserve his wisdom.
• Tea Set + Premium Tea Collection – Comfort, class, and something to sip while telling stories.
• Your presence – Needless to say, but show up anytime the opportunity calls for it. Or just because. That’s a priceless gift.

No matter his age or quirks, your father isn’t just a man with grey hair and nostalgia. He’s a quiet warrior. Maybe, just maybe, he is someone still learning how to love out loud.

Give him something worthy of that. Happy #FathersDay